5 Rules For Being Human

1. You will learn lessons.

2. There are no mistakes-only lessons.

3. A lesson is repeated until it is learned.

4. If you don’t learn the easy lesson, they get HARDER.
(Pain is the way the universe gets your attention.)

5. You’ll know you’ve learned a lesson when your actions change.Short and to the point, but powerful! Especially #4.

I wish I could say I always learn through subtle promptings. Unfortunately, the ones that leave me a little bruised when they smack me across the head seem to get more of my immediate attention.

Anyone else with me on this?

Living in the Land of “-er” and “-est”

While working on a chapter for my book regarding “Comparisons to Others”, I came across a a great message by Andy Stanley, pastor of North Point Community Church in Atlanta. In his talk titled “The Comparison Trap”, Andy provided some great questions and insight for us to think about in the area of comparison to others.

He asked the question: Do you live in the Land of “-er” or “-est?

Land of “-er” is a place where you tend to compare yourself to others with the end result leaving you feeling like you have to be more “-er”: Skinny-er, Funny-er, Happy-er, Smart-er, Healthy-er, Talented-er, Pretty-er, Rich-er, etc…?

Maybe you feel you are a real driver and feel the desire to live in the land of “-est”: Pretty-est, Rich-est, Happy-est, Healthy-est, Smart-est, ReTweeted-est… ;)

Depending on where your focus is, you could start to feel “Worse-er” about yourself or on the flip side, “Superior-er”!

Problem is with both o these is that, there is always someone, somewhere who is more “-er” or “-est”!!

Remember: “Awareness can drive discontent” AND “There is no win in comparison.”

So next time you find yourself wandering around one of these “lands”, which let’s face it, we all do many times in our lives, ask yourself a couple questions:

1. What or Who am I going to use as a reference point to determine I am okay?
2. Who’s estimation of me should I embrace?

As long as you look to the left or look to the right, you will always feel “less than” and never catch up to whom you are trying to compare yourself too.

The only answer Pastor Andy says that is guaranteed to bring you peace and comfort that you are “okay” is God. He is your Father, and like most fathers, He only sees the best in you and knows how special you are just as you are today. I tend to agree.

So next time you are feeling like you need to be more “-er” or more “-est”, take a moment, stop looking left and looking right and comparing, and instead look UP to the one person who loves you just as you are and find peace in that.

No matter what your faith background may be, I think that is pretty good advice.

End in Order to Begin

AS 2011 comes to and end, many of us get excited about the New Year and the opportunity to start fresh, begin again, leave behind the poor decisions of the prior year, reflect on the great decisions, and jump right into a new year. However, the first step in preparing 2012 to be better than 2011 is to be sure to complete 2011.

There is a power in creating endings before starting or beginning a new plan, new year, or even a new relationship. Put a period on 2011, not a comma. This is the time to eliminate everything in your life that doesn’t bring something positive to your business or personal life.

Commit to start the new year fresh. By bringing 2011 to a close (no loose ends), you will have the opportunity for New Beginnings! Don’t forget to also celebrate your 2011 wins, and use them as a springboard for 2012 (excerpt from Bill S., aka “The Coach”)

Happy Thanksgiving – Count Your Blessings!

I want to wish all my friends, family, associates, inlaws, and outlaws ;-) that I am connected to a very happy and blessed Thanksgiving!

In this season of Thanksgiving, let’s take a break from thoughts of what we don’t have or have not yet achieved yet, and instead, take some time to reflect on some things you are thankful for. Here are some that I have thought of and that I have seen posted today that I resonate with:

I am thankful for a mother and father that have taught me strength and grace of God’s love, and for a family that has never let me down.
I am thankful for a truly amazing friends and business partners who teach me to grow everyday.
I am thankful for a career and past experiences that allow me to help people.
I am thankful for my health (even though I take if for granted some times
I am thankful for my relationships that challenge me but leave me feeling blessed that they are in my life.
I am thankful for those who have served and died to provide this opportunity to share my thoughts and thanks openly without fear of negative recourse.
I am thankful that you are still reading this…..

I am thankful that some of you will now go and do the same by sharing that which you are thankful for. It WILL bless someone else’s life!

Happy Thanksgiving and God Bless!

John Sedej
Financial Navigator

Steve Jobs and You: Something to Think About

Here is something for you to really consider……
We all heard of the great loss to mankind with
the passing of Steve Jobs.

Here he was, only 56 years old, loved by millions…..
Handsome, clever, witty, enriched countless lives….
Had Billions of $$ in the bank…
and was one of the wealthiest people on earth….

Yet, you and I are infinitely wealthier than he is because…
WE HAVE TODAY, and sadly, he does not.

Spend your infinite wealth today on something
that matters, enrich people’s lives like Steve did.
Spend your day today, like Steve Jobs would spend it if he could.

Celebrating the gift of “Today” with you today. Make it count!

Your Friend,
John

Thought for Today

“Far better to live your own path imperfectly than to live another’s perfectly. “
-Bhagavad Gita

Maybe this should be the new motto for my entrepreneurial ventures!

Thought of the Day

‎”You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they can and should do for themselves.” -William J. H. Boetcker

IN other words, create your own economic recovery package and don’t look to others to “give” you something for nothing.
CREATE an asset of your own. By doing so, your confidence, your bank account, your self-esteem, and your network will all grow!

Be thankful and generous in the process so you will have humility in addition to success. That is a powerful combination!

Thought of the Day

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” – Frederick Koenig (Inventor)

Write down 5 things that you are grateful for in your life and then share them with someone. It will change your attitude and your day for the better! I promise!

Make it a great day!

John Sedej
Financial Navigator

Thought of the Day

Jim Rohn had some interesting observations on leadership and I thought they applied to not only our professional lives, but also our family life and financial life….

Leaders in all walks of life, must not allow themselves to mistake intentions or activity for accomplishments.
We must learn to help those who deserve it, not just those who need it. Life responds to deserve not need.
We could all use a little coaching. When you’re playing the game, it’s hard to think of everything.
A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing
well to do even better.

Help yourself by helping others and you will have significance AND success.

Thought of the Day…

Have you ever noticed that most of the million dollar plus homes have libraries in them? Do you see any message in that?

Hmmm…….

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